Lynne Huffer s ambitious inquiry redresses the rift between feminist and queer theory traversing the space of a new post-moral sexual ethics that includes pleasure desire connection and betrayal. She begins by balancing queer theorists politics of sexual freedoms with a moralizing feminist politics that views sexuality as harm. Drawing on the best insights from both traditions she builds an ethics centered on eros following Michel Foucault s ethics as a practice of freedom and Luce Irigaray s lyrical articulation of an ethics of sexual difference. Through this theoretical lens Huffer examines everyday experiences of ethical connection and failure connected to sex including queer sexual practices sodomy laws interracial love pornography and work-life balance. Her approach complicates sexual identities while challenging the epistemological foundations of subjectivity. She rethinks ethics beyond good and evil without underestimating as some queer theorists have done the persistence of what Foucault calls the catastrophe of morality. Elaborating a thinking-feeling ethics of the other Huffer encourages contemporary intellectuals to reshape sexual morality from within defining an ethical space that is both poetically suggestive and politically relevant both conceptually daring and grounded in common sexual experience.